All future blogs

Hi! Thanks for visiting my website and blog! If you’re wondering why I haven’t written since 2017, you may be excited to learn that I have been! I’ve just been posting them on The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center’s website! Please take a...

De-escalation and emotional flooding

In the previous post I wrote some guidelines and foundations to communication. Psychologist John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute, identifies criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling as the “four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” which will...

Inherited trauma …. and resilience

There’s been a lot of research coming out in the last few years discussing the ways in which trauma can be passed down through generations both behaviorally and biologically. This trauma ranges from the holocaust to Atlantic slave trade to fighting in war abroad...

Relationships and Trauma

Relationships, intimacy and vulnerability can be scary and many folks I’ve worked with struggle with trauma, negative self narratives, beliefs of being undeserving, unloveable and other narratives that keep us feeling distant or fearful of relationships. This...