LGBTQ+ and LDS

To be LGBTQ+ and LDS is a complicated experience, especially after November 2015. The bravery and resilience LGBTQ+ mormons embody in the face of suffering, institutionalized cis-hetero-supremacy, and rejection is both saddening and inspiring. The Mormon church claims...

De-escalation and emotional flooding

In the previous post I wrote some guidelines and foundations to communication. Psychologist John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute, identifies criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling as the “four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” which will...

Mindfulness and anger

A lot of the people I work with feel that they didn’t learn how to soothe their feelings, express their feelings and have a constructive relationship to their feelings. I find this particularly true when it comes to anger. A theme I’ve also seen is that...