De-escalation and emotional flooding
In the previous post I wrote some guidelines and foundations to communication. Psychologist John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute, identifies criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling as the “four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” which will...Communication Foundations
Many clients, whether individuals, parents, couples and multiple-partner relationships come into treatment wanting to improve communication. They are either experiencing frequent conflict, not feeling heard and don’t feel equipped to resolve conflict nor...Mindfulness and anger
A lot of the people I work with feel that they didn’t learn how to soothe their feelings, express their feelings and have a constructive relationship to their feelings. I find this particularly true when it comes to anger. A theme I’ve also seen is that...Labels and Language: The Webster dictionary adds cisgender and genderqueer
Language and labels can be incredibly meaningful. In a lot of my work I find people often resisting labels, defending labels, finding connection in labels and finding meaning. While sometimes harmful and limiting, labels can also be connecting and liberating. They can...850 7th Avenue
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