by jessekahn | Jun 10, 2017 | Uncategorized
In the previous post I wrote some guidelines and foundations to communication. Psychologist John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute, identifies criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling as the “four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” which will...
by jessekahn | Apr 20, 2017 | Uncategorized
A lot of the people I work with feel that they didn’t learn how to soothe their feelings, express their feelings and have a constructive relationship to their feelings. I find this particularly true when it comes to anger. A theme I’ve also seen is that...
by jessekahn | Mar 15, 2017 | Uncategorized
Relationships, intimacy and vulnerability can be scary and many folks I’ve worked with struggle with trauma, negative self narratives, beliefs of being undeserving, unloveable and other narratives that keep us feeling distant or fearful of relationships. This...
by jessekahn | Jan 27, 2017 | Uncategorized
Language and labels can be incredibly meaningful. In a lot of my work I find people often resisting labels, defending labels, finding connection in labels and finding meaning. While sometimes harmful and limiting, labels can also be connecting and liberating. They can...
by jessekahn | Aug 19, 2016 | Uncategorized
In May 2016, the NY Times published an article called “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.” When I read this I thought “yes!!” Essentially the article explains why in therapy we explore your original relationships with your caretakers and...