De-escalation and emotional flooding

In the previous post I wrote some guidelines and foundations to communication. Psychologist John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute, identifies criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling as the “four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” which will...

Mindfulness and anger

A lot of the people I work with feel that they didn’t learn how to soothe their feelings, express their feelings and have a constructive relationship to their feelings. I find this particularly true when it comes to anger. A theme I’ve also seen is that...

Hello World!

Hi! And welcome to my blog! I’m Jesse, an NYC-based psychotherapist who provides a wide variety of services including psychotherapy and consultation focusing on gender and sexuality. I specialize in LGBQ, trans and gender-variant, kink, BDSM, fetish,...